The fog is lifting!


This was MJ’s 2nd week at her internship and I’m thrilled to report that it’s going well! As far as I can tell, she is doing a very good job. They have her doing beta testing and she found a lot of issues and bugs to be fixed. She created a prioritized spreadsheet for the programmer to follow. And, she told me that the programmer is actually the owner and that she sat with him as they worked through the list to fix each item. The liaison from Pathways tells me MJ has been very thorough and that’s exactly what they need from her.

MJ even talked about helping connect the sales people to potential prospects. She seems genuinely happy to go to work and be a team player. One day I called her cell phone when I arrived to pick her up. She was surprised I was there already. She said, “Is it time to leave? But we’re on a roll here!” LOL, that’s a good sign! At first she didn’t understand that this was an 8-12 week internship. She thought it was either a test to see if they would hire her longer term, or that if she did a great job, they’d want to keep her. Now that she gets that it might just be 8-12 weeks, I think she’s working hard to prove herself invaluable. Pretty cool, huh?

The hours have been perfect. She works 20 hours a week, so 5 hours M, T, Th, F and she takes off Wednesday to break up the week. I’ve gotten her to drive home but in the mornings she doesn’t feel up to it. But that’s OK, we are taking things one step at a time. I’m hopeful that by the end of the internship, she’ll be comfortable enough to drive herself both ways without me in the car.

MJ has a sense of purpose and fulfillment. The creative juices are definitely flowing now! She’s using her gifts and is interacting with people daily. She feels appreciated and is much more energetic. It also sounds like she is doing well socially. But, the liaison said she would give her some coaching in navigating the fine line between providing constructive criticism and being too blunt… something I think most Aspie’s need to be more sensitive to. At home she’s been loving, joyful, and more communicative.

It looks like so far everyone at the office has been accepting and supportive of MJ. I was, and still am hopeful that once she’s in a good work situation and out in the world that her feelings of gender dysphoria would quiet down. She does seem to be happier and more at ease with her appearance. But the physical pain she has with shaving is still very real and raw.

She’s also highly concerned, as most of us are, about what will happen when a new president takes office. She’s particularly worried about healthcare, especially because she is approaching the age where she will not be covered under our family policy. Obviously there will be more struggles to come but for right now, we feel like the the fog has lifted and for that we are so thankful. We’ve come such a very long way and we have so much more hope for the future.

Sing to him a new song; play skillfully, and shout for joy.
– Psalm 33:3

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